Under-qualification and smeary crayons

Posted on Saturday 30 September 2006

Little Guy has finally been qualified for Early Intervention. He’s always been kind of behind in his gross motor skills, but he wasn’t far enough behind to qualify for services to keep him from falling further behind. As a result, he has fallen further behind, so now they will provide services to help him catch up. The joys of bureaucracy.

Anyway, Little Guy has a sixth sense about the Early Intervention team. Last time they came, he started doing all sorts of things that he had never done before. It was amazing. This time, I sent out a very clear message to all of my family members (and especially to my Mother-in-Law, who is a physical therapist… or an occupational therapist…one of those) that they were not allowed to teach him anything in the week while we waiting for the EI folks. I called EI because at 10 ½ months, he still wasn’t crawling, walking, or even able to get into a sitting position on his own. And wouldn’t you know it, I went into the nursery the day before the PT came, and Little Guy was sitting in his crib grinning at me!

Luckily, we were allowed to ignore his sudden (and mysterious) sitting spell because I had never seen him do it and I honestly couldn’t figure out how he pulled it off. As it turns out, he rated at a 7 month level at nearly 11 months of age. My MIL (the PT or OT – I wish I could remember) went into a flurry of questions and suggested that they should work with him 2 or 3 times a week. I wish that people would realize that their best intentions can have the total opposite effect on the people you intend them for. In fact, it should be the first rule of the MIL handbook. =} Ok, that aside… I know she meant well, but then I started feeling worried and sad that Little Guy was so far behind.

It’s something I call mommy-guilt – Maybe I should have played with him more. Or maybe I should have worked with him on it every day. But the fact is that most people don’t have to work on things like rolling over with their infants and the fact that I basically taught Little Guy to roll did alleviate some of my guilt. The other thing is that he’s 11 months old and can’t crawl. It’s not a crisis, so there is simply no reason to treat it like one.

The PT will work with Little Guy (and me) every other week to start with. Since she came by last week, Little Guy started clapping (I tried to get him to clap for over 6 months), taking steps (he had previously just stood around and refused to move his feet), and sneakily sitting up when I’m not looking. This is pretty amazing. It’s even more amazing when you consider that she didn’t even work with him. We just completed paperwork!

I love having the EI people come because it gives me a sense of what is appropriate at each age and how I can support Little Guy in reaching those stages if he hasn’t already passed them. At his eval, though, they caught me totally off guard. The PT asked how he is with crayons. I laughed at what I thought was a hilarious joke. I mean, who gives a 10-month old crayons? Everything goes into his mouth. Turns out that he doesn’t know what to do with a crayon once he has it, so he ended up behind in his fine motor skills as well. It was like the IQ tests or whatever that are culturally biased (for example, if you’ve never seen a ball, you won’t know if it is larger or smaller than a house). Anyway, I bought Little Guy some crayons and he continued to try to eat them, so I guess he’ll just stay a step behind in his fine motor skills for the time being. Oh, and by the way, when you get washable crayons wet they turn into a smeary paint.

Christy @ 12:28 am
Filed under: Bug (aka Little Guy) andMe
A Smile Means Friendship to Everyone

Posted on Wednesday 27 September 2006

Yeah, It’s a Small World.  I say this quite frequently.  It seems that I am particularly prone to overlaps in different areas of my life.

My most recent example definitely takes the cake.  By way of background, I currently have a prominent position in a local Mom’s group.  My name appears in the newsletter, etc.

About a week ago, I received an email from a pen pal I had when I was 12.   This is already strange, because I’m now in my 30’s.  As it happens, I did not change my name when I got married and she knew I was from this area, so she gave it a shot.  I grew up in Massachusetts (where I now live), but she grew up in New Jersey.  We wrote to each other until our early 20’s and then lost track of one another.

I was very surprised to hear from her and even more so to realize that we live in the same area.  We had never met in person.   She lived in NJ.  I went to college in NJ, but then she left for college in PA.  I then moved to Maryland.  She later moved to Maryland.  I moved back to Mass in 1997 and she moved here a few years ago.

As it happens, she lives in the same town, about 2 miles down the road.  She got married 3 years ago, I got married 2 years ago (both in our 30’s).  I have a 10-month-old son (now 11 months!), she has an 8 month old daughter.  We’re both stay-at-home moms.  Our husbands work with computers, and both of us have previously held jobs that involved technology and non-profits.  In Boston.  We each have traveled extensively for work and are glad we no longer have to.  We’re pursuing writing careers (hers in fiction, mine in online journalism/freelancing) now that we’re home and can really follow our interests.  We each own two cats.

So, there you go.  Is your world smaller than mine?  Let me know!

Christy @ 6:44 pm
Filed under: Me andRandom and Weird
Nightform – Prevention for Plagiocephaly

Posted on Friday 22 September 2006

Have you heard of positional plagiocephaly? It’s also known as flat head syndrome, and is becoming increasingly common in infants. The skull, which is very soft in an infant, becomes flattened on one side, usually from lying in the same position over long periods of time. The “back-to-sleep” campaign, put in place to reduce the risk of SIDS, has potentially increased the appearance of this problem. You may have seen babies wearing helmets to reshape their skulls. The helmets are expensive and insurance companies often won’t cover the costs. The best way to handle positional plagiocephaly is to avoid it.

Nightform is the first FDA-approved product designed to prevent positional plagiocephaly and, according to the manufacturer, can also help reduce the risk of SIDS. It is a simple sleep-positioner designed for use in the bassinet or crib for the first few months of the infant’s life. Each side of the Nightform has a foam insert that can be rotated to create a slightly different sleeping position thereby distributing the pressure to different parts of the skull over time.

** The Nightform Sleep Positioner seems to be unavailable. I’ll update with new information when I have it.

Christy @ 10:20 am
Filed under: Business Stuff andGifts
Contact Me

Posted on Thursday 21 September 2006


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Christy @ 8:57 am
Filed under: Me
September Search Engine Fun

Posted on Wednesday 20 September 2006

My site doesn’t have a ton of hits yet, but I usually get a few a week from search engine queries. I have been thoroughly amused by the many ways people find my site, and thought I’d start sharing the fun with you. So far, for the month of September:

8 different keyphrases Search Percent
razberry teether 4 36.3 %
mom does not want me to have a destination wedding 1 9 %
who knows mommy more 1 9 %
campbell s soup commercial chunkier 1 9 %
dead gross things 1 9 %
back-to-school cake 1 9 %
goodie bouquet 1 9 %
babycrazy 1 9 %

I suspect that the search for BabyCrazy was actually from me. =} Other than that, this is how people are getting here. Random? Yes. Weird? Yes. And I can’t wait to see what next month brings!

If you’ve got a blog and can access your stats, please share your top ten, or most interesting…

Christy @ 12:24 am
Filed under: Blogging andRandom and Weird
Women are like puppies…

Posted on Monday 18 September 2006

If you watch Trading Spouses, you may have experienced a whole new level of male chauvenist piggy-ness. One of the husbands actually said, “A woman is just like a puppy dog. If they do something right, you give them a treat – flip ’em a dollar bill or something – and they’ll be all right.” Now, I suppose he could have been kidding, but what kind of idiot says things like that out loud?

Christy @ 11:24 pm
Filed under: TV andVent
Crazy Weekend

Posted on Sunday 17 September 2006

On Saturday, I went to my soon-to-be sister-in-law’s shower, and then hurried home for my BabyCrazy/Barefoot Books Open House.  My husband (did I mention how wonderful he is?) spent the morning cleaning and watching Little Guy.  After the Open House, he went to the bachelor party.  It’s a bit weird, because it’s my brother-in-law’s second marriage (the last one ended in under 6 months) in about two years, so we’ve sort of just been through this.  We’re all trying to be supportive, but the whole thing is a bit weird.  Anyway, they just announced their engagment MAYBE two months ago (and, no, she’s not pregnant), so we’ve been in this little whirlwind of wedding prep.  The wedding is next weekend and I’ll be glad when it has come and gone.

I don’t mean to be so negative, but Big Guy and I are just sick and tired of weddings.  We were invited to 6 this year… 3 of them were destination weddings (and another wasn’t technically a destination wedding, but was in another country), 2 of them were relatively short engagements, 2 of them involve inconvenient destinations locally.  Strangely enough, Little Guy was invited to all of them.  He’ll have been to 3 weddings before he hits his first birthday (and invited to 6!).  I’ve been to a lot of weddings.  A LOT.  More than 25.  And this has been the most inconvenient bunch I have ever seen.   We’re both just wishing for a wedding where the couple has been engaged long enough that we’re not trying to squeeze everything in, the wedding itself is within an hour’s drive, the reception is within 20 minutes of the wedding and begins shortly after the ceremony ends, and nothing else weird is going on.  Just easy.  Our wedding was easy – you went to the site, sat through the ceremony, and went inside for the reception.  The one flaw is that it was on a Sunday, but it started at 3 and was over by 9.  Of course, if you ask my mother, it was out in the middle of nowhere.  It was about 45 minutes from their house… the reception site she wanted was also at least 45 minutes from their house, but in the opposite direction from all of Big Guy’s family and all of our friends.  Ah, mothers. =}

I realize I’m babbling a bit.  I have a cold, or allergies, or something, and am in a bit of a fog, so I appreciate you being gentle with your comments. =}

Christy @ 11:42 pm
Filed under: Me andMy Family

Posted on Tuesday 12 September 2006

It’s decided… Little Guy is going to be a dragon for Halloween. Check out his super-cute costume:

It roars!

Christy @ 12:09 am
Filed under: Bug (aka Little Guy) andMe
In remembrance

Posted on Monday 11 September 2006

I just want to take a virtual moment of silence for those who lost their lives in the attacks on 9/11, those who have lost their lives in the aftermath, and those who are suffering today.

Christy @ 11:11 am
Filed under: Me
Blog it Forward Six Degrees Part II

Posted on Sunday 10 September 2006

My apologies for the delay!  As a reminder, the idea behind BIFSD (for lack of a better name) is to stretch out beyond my inner circle and see what I find.  I chose a blog from my blogroll and then chose a blog from their blogroll, and onwards until I found the 6th degree blog.  Pretty simple.

This was a bit more challenging than I thought, so I had to make a couple of rules (ack!):

1. Each blog must have some sort of blogroll, whether it’s a list of bloggers they read, or bloggers that read them.  Basically, I have to be able to go somewhere interesting from the starting blog.

2. I have to find something remotely interesting about each blog on the way to the final destination.I found some very interesting blogs on the way to my 6th degree, so you should definitely check them out.  However, some blogs may be offensive to some people – if you’re one of those people, just move along to the next one!  The first BIFSD path is:

1. Troll Baby

2. Snozzberries

3. Bonanza Jellybean

4. Treading Lightly on Powdered Sugar

5. I wasn’t always like this…

And the 6th degree blog is (drumroll, please)…

Little Earthquakes

This blog already had name appeal because I really enjoyed the Jennifer Weiner book by the same name. Heidi seems like a down-to-earth mommy blogger.  Her posts are a bit sparse this summer, but she’s got another blog that she has been working on a bit more.  Now, this is truly a big coincidence, because she’s got quite a nice post about putting yourself first now and again.  It’s called “Taking Time for Me”  and I believe is dated June 26.  Anyway, it fits nicely with my previous commentary on the subject so I give it a big kudos!  Hurray for Heidi, and good luck to her in her journey towards health and self-discovery…

Please take a moment to visit Heidi, or one of the other bloggers on the path…

Christy @ 1:09 pm
Filed under: Blogging andKudos andMe