MTM Tip of the Week

Posted on Sunday 26 August 2007

A weekend away with 22-month-old toddler son and 2.5 month-old don’t-put-me-down daughter isn’t all that much of a vacation. Not even with a husband who gets up in the middle of the night, changes, diapers, and is an all-around good dad. Not even in the in-laws’ house right on the beach.

The in-laws, who admittedly drive me crazy, cleaned the house, put out fresh sheets, and did everything they could to make sure our weekend was relaxing. My sister-in-law, who has no children, managed to leave us without sheets on the beds, dog hair on everywhere (which Big Guy is allergic to), dishes in the dishwasher, and – get this – wet towels in the washing machine. She actually left us a note on Wednesday evening to tell us that she didn’t have time to put the sheets on the bed and that the towels in the washing machine need to go into the dryer. We arrived on Friday. Who does that? Why even bother washing the towels if you’re not going to put them in the dryer?

Anyway, the weather was gorgeous and it was fun to play in the sand with Little Guy. He’s afraid of the water, so that wasn’t so great, but he was pretty excited about the seagulls.

While we were gone, a friend came over to feed the cats. We managed to trap one of them in the bedroom before leaving, so she peed and pooped everywhere.

I’m so glad to be home. I’m not going anywhere again for a long time… at least til the Little Lady learns how to sleep through the night.

Christy @ 11:25 pm
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Joys of Motherhood

Posted on Thursday 23 August 2007

I chose to be a stay at home mom, largely because I just want to be the one to enjoy their milestones. I don’t want a daycare provider experiencing their first words and steps. I’m honestly not sure it’s the best thing for my kids to be with me all day every day, but it is what it is.

I spent the past two weeks in the prep program. It’s my second time through, and I find the whole thing incredibly stressful. I’d really like to write for them, but I’m not sure I can do another prep, so they need to just hire me this time around. =}

The guidelines for prep tell you that, all things considered, they’ll hire the person with the most content. Honestly, it bugs me. Whoo-hoo for the people who have nothing else to do but prepare for a job they may not even get. Some of us have other jobs, kids, and family commitments and can’t spend every waking minute on the site. Does it mean we wouldn’t do a good job if we were hired? No. I could certainly drop a few of my other commitments if I knew I had the position.

Anyway, as I mentioned, I really want this job. So, as I struggled to write a coherent sentence while juggling an infant and a toddler, I started missing my single life. All of a sudden, I wanted to be completely selfish. I wanted to lock myself away in my office and write to my hearts’ content. I wanted my son to stop talking so much (boy, can he talk!) and my daughter to sit without being held for 5 minutes at a time. I started to resent them, and my husband, who kept suddenly thinking up errands he needed to run or things that had to be done right away. Why couldn’t I put my work first for once? He never took time out of work to run out and buy mulch.

Now that prep is over and I’m anxiously awaiting the verdict, I have a bit more clarity. I’m still annoyed that I had so much trouble clearing out a chunk of time to do anything, but the only reason I get to be home following my dreams is because of my kids. I’m not so much of an uber-mom that I can honestly say that I was doing it all for them… although the money would be nice, it’s really about my sense of worth. But, if I weren’t home caring for them, I would be out in the rat-race slaving away for some neurotic boss who has some sort of gender complex and a total lack or normal human empathy. So they continue to come first as, of course, they should, and I continue to strive to remain More Than Mommy.

Wish me luck!

Christy @ 3:16 pm
Filed under: Me
Sensing a theme?

Posted on Thursday 16 August 2007

I just realized that two out of the three last posts are about how tired I am. I should probably find something witty to say about exhaustion and motherhood and all that, but I’m just too tired to come up with anything.  Feel free to jump in with witty comments of your own.

Christy @ 11:48 pm
Filed under: Me
So tired.

Posted on Thursday 16 August 2007

I’m in prep for… nearing the end, thank goodness. My brain is fried and I’m exhausted. I’ve gone through prep before and I think the problem is that I generate so many ideas for things I want to write about that I feel overwhelmed. Oh.. that and the fact that my family can’t seem to handle me working for more than a few hours a week. Hopefully they’ll get used to it.

This week, we’ve also got a big welcome party for the Little Lady, we’re having a fence installed (after a few threats on my part to the fence co. about keeping their word), our primary car is in the shop from a fender bender (Big Guy and Little Guy on their way to Gymboree), and Big Guy has some big software release coming up for work. It’s not pretty.

If you read this in the next couple of days, wish me luck on prep. I’d really like this job – it’s perfect for me!

Christy @ 11:45 pm
Filed under: Me
Baby Social Obligations

Posted on Saturday 4 August 2007

We’re going to a birthday party today for a 3-year old. We’d be going even if we didn’t have a toddler of our own, but the thing is… he’s got a better social life than I do. Between play dates, Gymboree, doctor appointments, etc., he keeps me busy. Now that there are two of them, it’s only going to get worse.  And then they start with sports, clubs, classes and so on.

Is this the fun part?

Christy @ 3:02 pm
Filed under: Me andMy Family
So… very… tired..

Posted on Thursday 2 August 2007

Ok, we’re back from Maine. We had a nice time, especially Little Guy, who was in his glory. I had less night-time sleep than I normally do (Big Guy and I share nighttime baby duty, so I was on my own in Maine). My parents were wonderful and my niece, who came along as a “Mother’s Helper” was, indeed, a great help. That said, I’m tired.  I’m a total introvert and need quiet time of my own. If I don’t get it, I start to freak out. I normally spend some time shopping on my own, but felt like I should bring my niece (she’s 10) so she didn’t spend the whole time chasing my kids. I also normally go for a walk along the shore on my own and didn’t have the time/energy for that. I didn’t even have much time to relax on the deck with a book. Sigh. This is what being a mom is about.

After all that complaining, I had a pretty nice time. I’m glad I went. And now I’m going to try to catch up on some sleep!

Christy @ 10:46 pm
Filed under: Me andMy Family