Bug’s Birthday Week

Posted on Sunday 26 October 2008

Today marks the start of Bug’s third birthday week… It’s so cliche’, but I can’t believe how fast he’s growing up. We’ll have the first party with the in-laws later today, and then our own family "party" on Wednesday. Then he’s got his friend birthday next Sunday and the celebration with my family (combined with three of his cousins!) the following week.

It’s so strange to think back three years ago, before Big Guy and I were parents. We had no idea what we were getting into (you think you know, but you can’t possibly). I guess we’re going ok, so far. Here’s to another three years. =}

Christy @ 12:29 am
Filed under: Me
Nature vs. Nurture Again

Posted on Friday 24 October 2008

When Bug was about 11 months’ old, we walked out of the house and he pointed and said, “Car.” I don’t think we had any toy cars at the time and none of us had talked much about cars. It was the beginning of his love affair with all things vehicle-oriented.

Then came LadyBug. I was determined to let her choose her own path in terms of toys. I didn’t want to force either of our kids to choose based on gender stereotypes.. She is, of course, surrounded by trucks, cars, trains, planes, and so on. But we also have a couple of baby dolls and some bottles we got the kids last Christmas. Her first word after Mama and Dada? “Baby.” She walks around all day toting a baby and a blanket and hugging her books. It’s bizarre.

I was thinking about this today and pondering that whole nature vs. nurture question again in terms of gender roles. I know the kids are influenced by factors outside of this house. The grandparents in particular assume their interests based on gender. There’s only so much I can do to give them a neutral starting place in life.

This evening, I was playing a game with Bug. He got to design his own super hero. He chose a little blonde girl with pigtails and dressed her entirely in purple. And then I remembered that he waivers between pink and purple as his favorite color. And that LadyBug spends just as much, if not more, of her time smashing cars with her brother. And sometimes Bug likes to feed and snuggle with the babies, as well.  I guess we’re doing ok, after all.

Christy @ 12:10 am
Filed under: Bug (aka Little Guy) andLadyBug andMe
Treasuring the Small Moments

Posted on Monday 20 October 2008

Bug doesn’t like to go to bed. There’s plenty of drama when he’s supposed to be going to sleep – he can’t get into bed (uh, yeah, ok), there’s a book out of place, his stomach hurts (perhaps from all of that screaming?) and on and on.

Tonight he woke up with a poopy diaper, which he didn’t want me to change. I gave my standard speech about how using the potty would mean that he could go diaper free, and he went with his old standby… "I’m sad. I’m sad because I don’t want to change my diaper. I’m SO SO sad." He’s not old enough to realize how much I dislike changing diapers, so I go with it… "I’m sorry that you’re sad, but I can’t leave you in a poopy diaper."

Finally, I decide to ask what would make him happy. "A song," is his answer with a bit of a smirk. So, I climb into bed with him and sing song after song while he pretends not to smile. When the last song is over, I ask if he’s ready to go to sleep (a happy nod). I tell him I love him and start to walk out of the door.

Bug calls out, "All that singing made me happy. I’m not sad any more." And that made me happy, too.

Christy @ 12:03 am
Filed under: Me
Sock Monkey Spiderman!

Posted on Tuesday 14 October 2008

I have more BlogHer follow up to do, but I have to take a moment out to share the oxymoronic geekcrafts.com. Yes, I know geeks can be crafty. I wear both hats myself. But, honestly, I’ve only met one other craft geek and he was more of a GUY crafter. You know, woodworking, metalwork and stuff. Things that required power tools and the possible loss of limbs.

Geek Crafts is a must see for anyone crafty, anyone geeky or anyone walking the line in between. My favorites posts are the recent Spiderman Sock Monkey and the cross-stitched diagram of a plant cell. Shayne includes all sorts of crafts from cake decorating to sculpture to quilting.

Don’t forget to take the poll to say whether you’re a geek, crafter or both.

Christy @ 10:12 pm
Filed under: Me
BlogHer Boston Thoughts

Posted on Monday 13 October 2008

BlogHer Boston. I had an amazing time. I met so many wonderful women (and a couple of cool guys, too) and was really inspired by all of the stories and visions. Most of the folks there were incredibly friendly and helpful. There was one particular experience that stands out as a negative for the day, but it was countered by SO much good that it doesn’t really count. Thanks, ladies, for that.

Towards the end of the day, people kept asking if I had learned a lot. I have to say, no, not really. The sessions were either too far from any of the work I’m doing to be useful, or just too basic for my skill level. I would have liked more networking time, like Birds of a Feather tables in the main meeting area. I would have also enjoyed more generic sessions on blogging, identity, etc. Things that cross all skill levels and touch on all types of bloggers.

Even though I didn’t "learn" a lot, I was certainly impacted by all of the different types of bloggers that were present, their fantastic ideas, and their enthusiasm for their families, their writing, their websites, and life in general. Oh, and I won an IPod Touch, so that didn’t make my day worse. =}

At the risk of putting too much out there, I have to admit that although I’m a fairly confident and independent person, I am sometimes afraid/unwilling to tackle new things on my own. I don’t need a full-blown safety net, but I do like to swim or sink with someone else. It’s just nice to have someone to bounce ideas off of or commiserate or celebrate. There has been a project that I’ve been excited about for a while, but that I really wanted to start with a partner. In part, it’s because it will be a lot of work, but partly because I would like to share the highs and lows. Being at BlogHer reminded me that I have the skills, talent and experience to make this work (we’ll see about the time) and that I need to just go forward, even if I do it slowly, even if I use the tiniest of baby steps.

So, if one thing stands out as an essential take-away for me, it was the power of support groups and community. BlogHer Boston reminded me that there are plenty of other women (and MOMS!) hoping and trying and succeeding and failing and laughing and crying. There is a bit of wisdom floating around that you should surround yourself with people who mirror the type of person you want to be, and I’m learning to take that to heart. One of my goals for the next few months is to connect with other women who are looking for the same type of support experience as we grow our blogs, websites or other businesses to gather on a regular basis for networking, information sharing and fun.

Christy @ 3:07 pm
Filed under: Me
Nuts, It’s Almost Halloween

Posted on Thursday 9 October 2008

I just bought Halloween costumes for the kids… a monkey for Bug and a butterfly for LadyBug (a la Old Navy). Not my most inspirational year for costuming, but at least they’ll have something.

As Bug gets older, Halloween becomes more and more stressful for me. Trick-or-Treating with a food allergy child is sort of like dodging neighborhood land mines. At each house, I’m the mom standing with her child (which is appropriate since he’ll only be three this year), staring with concern at your bowl of candy. I’m not trying to be rude. I’m just looking for something that 1) won’t cause him to break out in hives just from touching the packaging (Reese’s Peanut Butter cups are my worst nightmare on Halloween), 2) won’t make him very ill from eating it. This year, I’m resigned to just buying extra candy and replacing pretty much everything he receives with something we’ve purchased and checked for nuts and eggs.

Bug had his annual blood test this week, which may give us some indication on which direction his allergies are taking. I’m holding out a glimmer of hope that the egg allergies will soon disappear and the peanut/tree nut allergies won’t be far behind. It’s unlikely, and we’re prepared to deal with a lifetime of nut avoidance and anxiety, but a mom can hope.

One thing we can do with minimal stress during this lovely fall season is go pumpkin picking. I’m hoping the weather is nice this weekend so we can take the kids.

Christy @ 10:45 am
Filed under: Me
Sick of Sick

Posted on Wednesday 8 October 2008

The kids were just sick a couple of weeks ago and now they’re sick again. I’m recovering from my cold, but they’re in full-blown snotty, germy, sickness. LadyBug takes everything in stride. She’s a bit moodier than normal, but generally plays in her normal, happy way. Bug, on the other hand, is a lot like his father. When he has a cold, the world comes to an end. "I don’t feel good, Mama," he moans as he drapes on the couch. Or, "My nose! My nose!" to let me know that he needs a tissue.

This morning, we reached the pinnacle of sick toddler snarkiness. LadyBug, who was away all day yesterday and happy to see her brother, walked over to say hi. Bug snapped at her, "No, don’t be happy! I’m not feeling well."

It’s going to be a long day.

Christy @ 9:24 am
Filed under: Me
Tethered to the Internet

Posted on Sunday 5 October 2008

I have an awful time being away from the Internet. I use it for just about everything. I suppose I should work on that. Anyway, Bug Guy and I went away this weekend for our anniversary. I had the brilliant plan to use my new Blackberry as a tethered modem while we were away, since the house has no Internet access. It worked, technically speaking. But it was sllloooooooooooow. Anyway, I wrote this great post about how much I loved my BB and how great it was working as a modem, but then I clicked “publish” and it disappeared.

On the other hand, I did manage to log on through my laptop (in the car) to schedule some shows on my TiVo. Cool.

Christy @ 11:16 pm
Filed under: Me
Anyone Going to BlogHer Boston?

Posted on Thursday 2 October 2008

If so, let me know!

(my apologize to those who read my writing blog as well!)

Christy @ 11:58 pm
Filed under: Me
Happy Birthday, Big Guy

Posted on Wednesday 1 October 2008

Big Guy’s birthday. Baked a cake (from scratch) and even made a decent dinner. All in the midst of a chaotic day. Our anniversary is next… a blissful weekend on the beach with no kids. Heaven.

Christy @ 11:59 pm
Filed under: Big Guy