Universal Balance

Posted on Thursday 16 July 2009

I am a firm believer that you have to remove all of the negative forces in your life to make room for the really good stuff. It’s not some weird metaphysical thing, either. It’s simple. If you’re wasting energy on negative things, you don’t have it to reach for the positive things. And, if you’re wasting energy on negative people and feelings, you don’t have room for the wonderful people and friendships.

For the past way-too-many months, I have been dealing with negative energy in my life. In the meantime, I was chasing a dream that wasn’t really what I wanted. I got caught up in the hype or what-have-you and was prancing down the wrong path. It wasn’t a bad path, but it also wasn’t the path I wanted to be focused on.

So, in the past few weeks, the negativity is gone and everything has aligned in my life. We got some really amazing news from Big Guy’s family and I’ve had some great opportunities. I’ve also made some lovely new friends. Every once and awhile you need a reminder to get back on track so I’m feeling very thankful about that.

Christy @ 8:48 pm
Filed under: Me
This is the Perfect Post

Posted on Monday 13 July 2009

As you may know, I blog on QuirkyFusion.com and, of course, on Family Computing @ About.com. It’s a lot of blogging for a mom with two little kids and a shortage of day care. But that’s not my biggest problem. My big roadblock to blogging is my vision of a perfect post. It has a beginning, middle and end. It says something intelligent, witty or profound. It makes people think and maybe even comment. It’s… perfect.

Perfect posts take time to write. They take editing and spell-checking. They take brain power. They may even have an accompanying photo. I don’t have time for that. And I sometimes forget that it is just that drive for the perfect post that led me to start Quirky Fusion in the first place. It frees me up to say whatever jumbled mess is in my mind on here. This is the me you’d find if you showed up at my door unannounced. Well, not really, since I don’t typically answer the door if I don’t know who’s knocking. You get the point, though. It’s the imperfect and honest me. Sometimes, it’s the angry me or the tired or the PMS-y me.  Just me. Only lightly edited.

So, I’m going to try to post more (but probably won’t) and try to let go of perfection. Not that I reach that even when I try. But don’t expect things to totally drag downhill either. One of my many pet peeves is a blog that’s sloppily written and not proofed at all. I still believe in treating my readers with some respect.

Yeah, so that’s it. The perfect post about imperfection. Sigh. I’m going to have to work on this one.

Christy @ 1:07 am
Filed under: Blogging
What a Difference a Day Makes

Posted on Saturday 4 July 2009

LadyBug has always been a spirited child. Where the rest of us sit and read books or watch TV, she jumps on the couch. While we snuggle together and talk quietly, she squirms and flips and screeches. We’re not quite sure where she came from, but she certainly adds some spice to our lives!

I knew, when she was just a year-and-a-half and already taunting her older brother by stealing toys and running away, that she was going to be a bit of a handful. And so it was no surprise that her second birthday gift to us was learning how to emphatically use the word, “no.” Bug went through this phase at the same age, but she’s given it her own special twist. No matter what you ask her, she answers with a sharp and unpleasant, “NO!” It is often followed up by a whiny request for whatever it is you just offered. For example, “Would you like some ice cream?” “NO!!! I want some ice cream…”

One of the delights and challenges of this particular age is how quickly they change. One day, they’re holding your hand and sighing, “Mama” when they see you. They next, they’re pulling away and screaming, “Noooooooo!” The one upside to all of this change is that when things get really ugly, you can be sure that it won’t last for long.

I’m not going to miss LadyBug’s snarky behavior when she (fingers crossed) moves on to the next phase of her development. But there are things I am going to miss. I love the way she tells her brother to calm down when he’s upset. Or reminds him, “Daddy’s at work!” over and over again as Bug complains that he misses his father. I love that when she’s tired or sad and I pick her up, she drapes onto my shoulder and wraps her arms around me. I love the way her face lights up when she smiles and how sweet she looks when she’s sleeping. I don’t like to admit it, but I love the impish look she gets when she’s being mischievous and that she is such a free spirit. And I love the way she pronounces things in her little-girl, just-learning-to-talk voice. She still says, “I need-a help!” She’s got an intense look of concentration when she’s “reading” her books and her face reveals every fleeting emotion that’s going on inside.  My little girl knows how to try my patience in a way I can’t even begin to describe, but she does it all with positive energy, sunlight and a lot of personality.

I hope that last bit never changes.

Christy @ 12:17 am
Filed under: LadyBug andMy Family